Reignite The Love In Your Marriage
If you are married, think back to your proposal. Whether you were the one that was down on one knee, or the one saying “yes,” there were a lot of hopes and expectations tied up in that moment. For most people, that moment was the beginning of a partnership, a family, a home, a safe haven. Fast forward to now. Where are you at? How much time has past? How has your love changed? Are the hopes and expectations you felt at the beginning of your relationship being fulfilled? How alive is that spark you felt early on in your relationship? Here are some ideas to reignite that spark. Or, to build that spark into a roaring fire.
First, think back on times in your relationship when things were at their best. What kinds of things were you doing for your partner? What were they doing to you? Start by exploring what you like to do for your partner. Think about how they feel loved. If you are not sure how they feel loved then ask them. Have them write down things that you have done that meant the most to them. Then, you do the same for them. That single exercise will probably give you a lot of ideas that you can use to express your love.
Now, some couples may not be at a point where that kind of conversation would be beneficial. Perhaps things that you used to love about your partner now drive you crazy. If this sounds like you then try this. Grab a piece of paper or open a word doc on your device. Now start making a list of attributes you admire in your partner. List your favorite physical quality of theirs. Write down why you fell in love with them and why you chose to marry them. Remind yourself why you decided to spend your life with this individual. Once you have done that, share that list with your partner. You could do this in a variety of ways:
Write a letter.
Put it in a song.
Pretend you are on a talk show and the host is asking you questions about what you wrote down. Make a video of your answers.
If you are still having a hard time thinking of what to do, or if you just want to try something new, here are some additional ideas you could try:
Buy your partner a gift (Not on their birthday or anniversary).
Make them their favorite meal.
Go dancing. Or dance in your front room.
Go on a date.
Spend the night in a hotel.
Hold hands.
Kiss for longer than 10 seconds.
Have sex and mix it up a bit.
Take care of a chore or project that your partner has on their plate.
Give a massage.
Shower together.
Let them have some time alone without you or the kids.
